Sunday, July 15, 2007

The Purpose of Divorce Records and When You Might Need Them

Faye B. Roberts

A copy of your divorce records is kept and can be obtained at any time from your county's Record Office of Licensing Branch of the state or country in which your divorce took place. If you have moved since the divorce you will need to contact the location where the proceedings took place. Be aware that certain guidelines must be followed when requesting a copy of your divorce papers. Each Records Office has different policies and procedures but these will be outlined for you when you request your copy of the Divorce Certificate. There may be a brief waiting period, again that may vary with each location.

Divorce records have a great number of purposes. They are a conclusion to the divorce agreement which took place in a Court of Law. The greatest importance of divorce papers is to ensure your divorce is legal and that the documents were signed by a Judge in a Court of Law. A divorce is only legalized when it is has gone through the proper legal channels and is approved by the Court.

Sometimes people believe they are divorced while in reality they are not. This could happen in an uncontested divorce if the respondent fails to file a response to the divorce, especially when the issues were settled between both parties beforehand. It is always best to insure that the divorce has been legalized to prevent future difficulties.

The main reason why someone may require divorce records is because they wish to remarry. Many states and countries require a copy of the divorce papers in order to issue a new Marriage Licence. This insures that the divorce was legal so the new marriage may take place. If someone is applying for a legal name change they may also need to provide these court documents. Applying for landed immigration status may also require proof of marital status by providing a marriage certificate and/or divorce decree. These papers are frequently needed to start the application process.

In today's society divorce seems to be a common occurrence and there are several websites that cater to finding divorce records. The most popular being through a state's or countries Vital Records website or Federal Records website. These can be found by using an Internet Search Engine. These websites may charge a fee for this service and are not considered a free public service.

Be certain you know if your document needs to be certified or not. A certified copy of a Divorce Certificate is issued with a raised seal. It will also show the signature of the proper authority and will be printed on security paper. A certified copy may be required to change your last name or remarry. Divorce certificates that are uncertified will be photocopied on plain white paper from the original document that was filed in the court system. Obtaining a copy that is certified can lead to longer waiting periods.

You may need to produce your divorce records at various time throughout your life. It is best to get a copy and keep it in safe place in case the need arises. In the event you have difficulty obtaining your divorce records through the proper channels you can seek advice from your Lawyer or any Family Law Attorney.
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The Truth Behind the Top Reasons for Divorce

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Monday, June 25, 2007

Does Divorce and Depression Go Hand in Hand

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The stereotype that a man relishes trading his wife for a fast car or a younger woman has proven to be erroneous. In actual fact a new study has found that men appear to take separation much harder than women and divorce and depression seem to have a relationship in both men and women.

Both men and women have a higher risk of being depressed when they get divorced as compared to people who remain with their spouses, but men who are divorced or separated are six times more likely to report depression compared with men who remained married, while women are 3.5 times more likely to have bouts of depression than their counterparts who are still in relationships.

Michelle Rotermann, the author of the study, said she was surprised and also not surprised by the results. "On the one hand we know depression in general tends to be more common among women, but there is also a lot of evidence that shows that men have fewer social supports, and social supports do play an important part in the healing process".

There are other factors that accompany the end of a relationship that may also contribute to the experience of depression, such as life style changes, economic difficulties or changes in the number of children living in the home. The study did find however that such changes were not enough to account for depression levels, which remained higher even after the other possible factors were taken into consideration. The dissolution of the relationship remained the highest factor causing depression.

Depression enters quietly, grabs a firm hold, and changes the way we live our lives. A dark cloud of grief and obscurity settles in robbing us of all our joys, and life seems to have lost its meaning. Depression comes in the form of painful crisis when it comes to divorce and loss of your partner. Many feelings like grief, rejection, anger, hatred, pain, feeling of being left behind, loneliness and above all a broken heart can destabilize you completely. There is nothing that can quickly take your pain away. One has to work through to come out of this pain and bring about the real healing.

Getting a divorce causes grief very much like the grief experienced when a loved one dies. The emotions are similar and follow a like pattern including the associated depression. The best news is that depression can be cured. Discuss your divorce and depression with your doctor and together you can find the best treatment options.

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Saturday, June 23, 2007

A Video To Help Children Cope With Divorce

This video might help your children with coping with divorce and make it a little easier to understand. Divorce is a painful and a very confusing time for everyone involved, especially children.
Using gentle humor, original music and a compelling storyline, Trevor Romain uses Skye's experience to give kids practical, helpful advice for dealing with the pain of divorce - such as knowing that it isn't their fault, they shouldn't take sides, don't hide their emotions and talking to friends can really help. After all, as Skye discovers, her parents aren't divorcing her - they love her! Enjoy!


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Friday, June 15, 2007

Terminating a Marriage

Faye B. Roberts

A divorce is a method of terminating a marriage between a couple. There are very few things more painful than being told that your marriage is over, especially if it wasn't your idea.

Often the first reaction is to act in extreme ways, either by wanting to give in to all demands in hopes of changing your spouse’s mind, or by being too demanding to "make them pay". Extreme behavior can be very costly. Should you decide to fight where a fight is not legally warranted, you will line your lawyer’s pockets with money needed to represent you and likely will not gain enough profit from the fight.

On the other hand, if you give up everything because you are ready to leave the marriage immediately or because you think your spouse will come back to you, you risk coming out of the marriage with very few assets and the possibility of a lot of debt. Therefore the very first step you must take is to find a lawyer and discover what your rights are.

People terminating a marriage are faced with the task of dividing up the assets. You will be tempted to place high values on things that have a sentimental worth and on things that cost you or your spouse a lot when you bought them. But, the truth is, unless you have a valuable antique or a Van Gogh painting, your stuff will not have the value you think it should. That lovely vase may mean the world to you or to your spouse, but to a judge it is stuff that has a garage sale value.

When deciding what to fight for, remember that you may have a winning position in your trial, but your position may have serious financial side effects. The leather sofa you want at all costs may end up costing you thousands in attorney’s fees and court costs and could have been replaced for a few hundred dollars. Honestly, do you want to win stuff in a trial at a price that far exceeds the sale value?

If there are children of the marriage terminating it makes it harder and makes the divorce proceedings linger on. And you must keep in mind that you can divorce your spouse, but that person remains your child’s parent. Sometimes it is tempting to sever all ties, but you can't stop a child from loving or wanting a parent, and their needs must be taken into consideration. Whatever the lingering emotions involved after terminating a marriage, if you have children, your ex-spouse will always be a member of your family.

Recovering from a divorce is much like the grieving process one experiences when a loved one dies. It is a difficult process that can be very time consuming. Studies show that it may take as long as two years to fully recover. Terminating a marriage may be very difficult over a relatively short period, but living in a marriage that is not fulfilling can stifle you for the rest of your life.

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Tuesday, June 12, 2007

Top 10 Reasons For Divorce: The Marriage Killers

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Sunday, June 10, 2007

Pre Divorce Planning Helps Ease Stress

Faye B. Roberts

Learning how to protect yourself if you are considering divorce with a little pre divorce planning will help your divorce run more smoothly as well as providing you with extra protection. By spending a little time now in preparation can save a lot of money in legal fees.

Your Mail Box : Make a list of sender and return address and make a copy of the following revenue properties, insurance companies, stock brokers, credit issuers and banks. Set up new mail receiving system for your privacy as well as ensuring you will receive your mail. You could have it sent to friend of relative or set up a post office box. Remember to send out a change of address notice.

Know Your Family Finances:

1 Examine all monthly credit card statements, bank and brokerage statements, property information and assessments.
2 Be sure to review of all loan documents, mortgage applications, and financial statements.
3 Gather information from all pension plans for either yourself or your spouse.
4 Make copies of tax returns for the previous five years and of the taxation notice of assessment.

Know Your Assets:

1 Make a complete listing of any assets in your and your spouse's name both personal and business related. Note if the assets are jointly or individually owned and the source of the assets, if inherited, gifted, or in the name of a separate individual on your behalf. It is essential to indicate if the belongings were acquired before to or while married.
2 List and photograph the contents of your safety deposit box and know approximate value.

Know Your Liabilities: Make a comprehensive list of all debts or obligations. Recognize each debt, date it was incurred and the element for the debt. Recognize which party has been making the payments, as well as the monthly or yearly amounts.


1 If you have medical and dental coverage under your partners plan be sure to search for new coverage in the event of separation.
2 This is no time to be creating addition debt, making large purchases like a new car. Keep your belongings as liquid as you can.
3 Do not change, transfer, sign, or make a gift of any marital assets in both names.
4 If you are employed, stay employed. It is vital to secure your impending financial independence and earn enough to maintain assets such as your home and car.
5 Divorce or separation can causes immediate economic hardship. Buy traveler's checks or stash some cash in order to be able to purchase personal necessities in the event of a divorce.

Understand Insurance Policy's :

1 Have information about all insurance policies relating to the matrimonial residence furnishings, vehicles, jewelry, artwork, or other valuable. List the appraised value if possible.
2 Gather papers on any life insurance coverage that either parties have. This may be forgotten equity.

Other, But Important

1 Get copies of any wills or trust agreements that you presently have.

2 Never move of the family home without first discussing it with your lawyer.

Armed with this information on pre divorce planning you can be prepared in the event of a divorce. Being prepared for divorce will help take off a bit of the stress that divorcing can cause.
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